Parenting is one of the toughest jobs in the world and every parent desires to get it right. But the crucial thing to remember is that there is no ‘right’ way of parenting. The key to success here is to identify one’s own style of parenting that not just disciplines the child but also helps them grow into a compassionate and a responsible adult.
Although, the universal rules for successful parenting may vary, the one thing that remains constant are some parenting errors. Repeatedly doing these will only distant a child away from the parents. Here are some things that should be avoided:
Hyper-parenting: As parents we only want the best for our child but when this enthusiasm goes too far we start hyper parenting. This is nothing but an over-involved, over-protective and an over-indulgent way of parenting that can harm a child’s social development and effect their confidence levels. Apart from having a negative effect on how they learn and develop it can also distant a child away from the parents.
Overreaction to minor mistakes: Having rules are important but having too many unreasonable ones can cause a rift in the parent-child relationship. Constant over reactions to minor mistakes will only lead to the child ignoring the parents completely. The key is to control the reactions and deliver them in a matured manner so that the child can feel the gravity of the situation when parents do choose to react negatively.
Spending very little quality time: According to research, the quality of time spent with a child is more effective than the quantity. Parents bond with their toddler is strongly nurtured when they are actively engaged in activities with him/her. Being overly present or being too busy for the child can also distant them from their parents.
Empty Threats to leave your child:‘I will leave you here’, these words have a negative impact on a child’s development. Remember, a child looks up to his/her parents for love and protection and threatening to leave only instills a fear of abandonment in them. Also, on hearing these words a child is bound to get really terrified and will gradually begin to trust the parents less if these threats are made too often.
Parents, try these tips out to further strengthen your bond with your child!