The importance of positive reinforcement while raising your little ones cannot be stressed enough. Positivity – in actions, words and advice – helps children develop a positive sense worth there by building a strong self-image and self-esteem right from a young age.
However, many parents get stuck and don’t know the right thing to say to their child, especially during moments of rage. If this has happened to you, don’t worry, it happens to all of us. Here, we have put together some positive things you can say to your child to help him or her through the day!
Express gratitude: When your little ones do something for you – even if it is as simple as bringing you a glass of water, never forget to express your gratitude to them. Not only do they feel good, they also automatically learn how to be grateful.
Talk instead of yelling: So your little one spilt your favourite bottle of nail polish all over that brand new white dress you just bought! Are you mad? Of course you are! However, try not to yell at him or her because the words that come out when angry are most often hurtful. Calm your senses down – it was a great dress and a really expensive nail polish, but this is a memory you and your little one may be able to laugh about down the line. Explain to your child that you are upset at what has happened, and why you are upset. You’d be surprised at how careful he or she will be the next time!
Listen: Whenever your little ones talk, ensure you give them all your attention. Listen to what they are saying and let them know you’re interested in their views or story!
Use various positive phrases such as:
I love you.
You are special.
We can’t wait to spend time with you.
Praise them when necessary – that’s a good boy/girl.
Thank you for being you.
I love how you said that.
You have a great imagination.
Don’t be afraid to be you.
I could never stop loving you.
You can say no.
You can say yes.
You are important.
This family wouldn’t be the same without you.
I know you did your best.
We are proud of you.
We all make mistakes. Yes, mum and dad too.
It’s good to be curious.
I appreciate you.
I forgive you.
Being around you is fun.
Watching you grow up is amazing.
We can try (this) your way.
You did that so well.
You are helpful.
You make the family feel full.
That’s a great question.
You make my happy.
That was a really good idea.
You don’t have to be perfect.
Whatever you decide to do or be will always be enough.
So remember, super parents, whatever the situation maybe, positive reinforcement and positive words go a long way in helping your little ones during tough times!