This was not a decision we took randomly. We had been evaluating our options since my little one was 3-months-old. While I was already apprehensive because no other caregiver including my husband, is going to be good enough to take care of my little angel; this was a decision we both made as I wanted to (not needed to) join back work.
Here are a few of them I wanted to share:
So, to all those people who thought I am going back to work leaving my child in a day-care because we are financially unstable without me working, or that we don’t have a choice of getting our folks to take care of our child and so they forgave me for this unfathomable act thinking we were helpless, please don’t forgive me because I am not sorry for anything and whatever we did was by choice! And yes, I say ‘we’ because this was a joint decision taken by my partner and me.
I always wanted to go back to work once I was assured that my little one is going to be taken care of. Also, for me, grandparents are not caretakers and I want my daughter to spend loads of time with them and get to learn lots of things which my husband and I might not be able to teach her.
My grandparents have always been important to me in my life, and I want my daughter to feel the same for hers. But at the same time, I want both sets of grandparents to live their life. They gave their entire life to get my husband and me to the stage we are now, and still, people expect they give up rest of their life running behind my child which seems unfair to me.
Don’t get me wrong, we love to have them at our place, but our child is our responsibility. And everything said and done, if there comes a day when we really need them, I have both sets of our parents willing to be there for us at the drop of a hat. And one day if I feel I can’t do this anymore, which is more often than you think I have my husband standing by me making me stronger than ever. But still if I feel the need, I will quit my job, my career but till then I am not sorry for what I have chosen today.
Motherhood does not have to symbolise sacrifices! Everyone has the right to live their life to the fullest and motherhood is a choice that I made, and it was not enforced upon me.
I have and will not make any sacrifices burdening my child with it when she grows up. I want to my child to grow up with a mom who can make choices and a dad who supports those choices to the fullest, teaching her that it is ok to love herself and take time for herself while being a mother at the same time! I want my little one to have the confidence to do what it takes to empower and encourage other women to follow their passions.
I want it all, my career, my little one’s childhood and time with my family and me along with my family, are committed to making sure that happens!
About: Monica Thawrani is an IT professional who is also a bookworm, a scribbler, has an opinion on everything and not afraid to speak her mind, a foodie, go-getter and hopeless optimist. Inspired by her latest muse, her infant daughter, Monica has taken up blogging in her free time.
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