Dad-vice: Getting More Involved

Sep 8, 2016 | Read time: 2 mins

Sep 8, 2016 | Read time:


The traditional way of raising a child dictates that a mother nurtures and a father provides.However, in the 21st century,with working moms and stay-at-home dads, what is the father’s role? Is it similar to that of mothers – switching seamlessly between several responsibilities? What part do they play in shaping their child’s personality?

Children crave that special attention from their fathers that makes them feel like they’re the centre of their world. While each parent contributes complimentary forces to the child’s growth, one-on-one father-child time is still critical. Dads are not only their partners in crime when it comes to stealing cookies but also who they look to for safety and comfort. Forms of affection – be it verbal or physical, active afterschool involvement and empathizing with the child’s feelings are often lacking from fatherhood.

What are the challenges dads face in getting more involved? Fathers report long work hours as one of the most important reasons. Stress and physical exhaustion from work make it harder for fathers to enjoy time with their children.Studies have shown the benefits for the child of a more involved dad: positive impact on self-esteem, reduced risky behaviour and growing up to be well-adjusted adults. Overall, paternal love appears to be as heavily impactful as maternal love in the offspring’s psychological well-being and health.

Fathers stand to gain a lot from playing a more active part in their little one’s life as well – a strong bond that lasts a lifetime. Here are a few simple tips for fathers looking to get more involved as a parent:

  • Irrespective of how little time you have with your child, give them your undivided attention
  • Provide them with all-important physical play – kids love being active together
  • Balance reproach when they go wrong with praise for their achievements
  • Listen to their feelings –Sometimes your child just needs empathy and not problem solving

Mom’s support as a co-parent and a compatible style of parenting are other factors that ensure that fathers enjoy the enriching experience of bringing up children. As dads, the quantity of time you spend with children might be lesser but the quality of that time is something you have control upon – make sure every second counts.

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