Remember the death of teenager Dagmara Przybysz, who hanged herself in a school toilet after being repeatedly bullied in school? Dagmara faced racist taunts.’ She kept on hearing nasty comments, be it in the school corridor or even at the playground, which lead to her taking the drastic decision.
More recently, there was a video of a prominent South Delhi school hurling abuses and bullying a child. There were serious questions raised on the school’s involvement in bullying. These are some of the commonly reported incidents of child bullying.
A recent study by research agency IMRB and Parent Circle reveals that every third child in Indian schools is bullied. The pan-India study covered 2700 respondents, with parents and children in equal number.
Bullying is common but it is often unnoticed because parents fail to identify the signs of bullying. It is important to reach out to a child who is being victimised by aggressive peers, and help them deal with the problem without resorting to self-harm.
Most common forms of bullying happen around abusive texts or messages, verbal abuse about looks or being physically intimidated – pushing, shoving, hitting.
If you have ascertained that your child is being bullied, take immediate action without appearing aggressive or panicking. You need to instil confidence in your child so that they can themselves tackle the bullies at school and face the challenges.
Parents and teachers must listen and respond to a bullied child without overreacting. A child follows a parent’s emotional lead, and the more outraged a parent looks, the more worried and ashamed they will feel.
Proper communication between a parent and a child can help liberate your child from fear. Do this by looping in other family members and also teachers and seniors in school.
Most young children think bullies are more powerful than them. So, they must be taught that bullies are weak and most vulnerable, hence they try to prove their superiority.
It is extremely important that school authorities are notified about the bullying and every school these days have counsellors who will definitely help.
Shame and embarrassment are powerful tools of bullies, so a matter-of-fact response towards a bullied child helps in making things normal.
Remember, it is important to restore your child’s self-confidence and ensure a healthy happy positive environment at home. Make sure your child is confident and secure enough to open up to you.